My 12 year old daughter is spending the majority of her summer with her father as per our divorce agreement. When she visits me she will not get off her laptop and tells me she's just surfing the internet. The other night, I looked at her history and I found out she's been going to myspace. I asked her if she has an account and she lied to me by saying no. I've tried to talk to my ex-about this, but he's very unreasonable and doesn't think it's a problem. I don't want my daughter to cancel her account, I know I can't stop her from visiting myspace, but I'd like to monitor her activity. I know the e-mail she's using to access her account, but I don't know her e-mail password. Is there a way I can 'search' her laptop files and some how gain access to her myspace account? My daughter knows I don't let her roam free on the internet, that's why she's lying to me about this. I've taken her laptop away when she's with me, but I can't control what goes on at dad's house. Any advice?
I believe she's using IE7 for a web browser.
Just to remind everyone, I HAVE taken the laptop away from my daughter at my house. I'm concerned about what she does at my ex-husbands while I'm not there to monitor her. At my house, I do have monitoring programs installed on our computers. That's why she uses the laptop from dad and not the computers at my house.
Related posts:
2 responses so far ↓
1 doumbek // Jul 16, 2008
Short answer, no.
At this point he only real answer is to take the laptop away from her. She lied, these are the consequences.
She doesn't NEED a computer. This should be a privilege, not a "right."
You should have installed some preemptive controls on the computer before giving it to her if you didn't want her on the Internet. So it's too late now to do anything else. Besides, your tactic - spying - is serupticious at best, and never a good approach.
When she's 18 she can do what she wants. Note the thumbs down, these will all come from pre-teens who don't understand hard parenting.
2 Bleeding Hearts // Jul 16, 2008
There is no way to do that easily. There are programs out there that 'capture' keystrokes and you would have to install that, keep track, and then decipher which of them are her password. (I've only heard of this, so I'm not even sure this is legal, sorry.)
Leave a Comment